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Getting Over an Abortion

By: Beth Morrisey MLIS - Updated: 17 Sep 2018 | comments*Discuss
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Abortions can be emotionally trying events for anyone, but teens often feel upset after a termination and have the added pressure of feeling that no one will want to listen them or be able to help them.

This is simply untrue. Getting over an abortion will probably never be described as "easy" but it doesn't have to be impossible either. Talking to someone, seeking support from others and allowing yourself to grieve are all important steps for teens looking to move on after an abortion.

Talking To Someone

Talking to someone is one of the most important things you can do for yourself when you are trying to get back to your life after an abortion. If you feel that you can not confide in someone you know, like a teacher, guidance counsellor or other trusted adult, then you still have the option of contacting someone less personal. Relate counsellors (www.relate.org.uk) can help you figure out how you are dealing with your relationships while Brooks centres (www.brook.org.uk) offer free post-abortion counselling to those under 25.

The British Pregnancy Advisory Service (www.bpas.org) also offers women post abortion counselling at any time following the procedure. Often teens find that talking to someone completely removed from their day to day lives, not to mention those who are experienced in counselling in general and/or post abortion counselling in particular, helps them feel more comfortable about sharing their most serious concerns and worries.

Seeking Support From Others

Sometimes teens also find it worthwhile to be able to meet with those who have been in the same position after terminating a pregnancy. Joining a support group, either in person or online, offers the chance to connect with others and feel a little less alone. However, as some online groups may be unmoderated it is worth it to make sure that you thoroughly research who runs the group, who has access to the group and how member's privacy is protected. Alternatively, reading other people's experiences with abortion may help you feel less isolated and better supported as well. For example, Care Confidential (www.careconfidential.com) posts personal experiences and also allows readers to post their own if they feel so inclined.

Allowing Yourself To Grieve

Teens who try to ignore the impact that abortions have had on their lives often find that they only prolong emotional upsets, not avoid them completely. Instead of trying to ignore your thoughts and feelings allow yourself the proper time to grieve. You may feel sad about the procedure, about your relationships, about the life you once had or thought you would have, or you may be sad and not understand why you feel this way. Expressing these emotions, such as in writing, poems, songs or art, may help you ultimately work through them and come to better understand yourself in the process.

Getting over an abortion will not be easy, nor will it necessarily be quick. Don't feel bad about needing help to get through this time and don't feel shy about seeking the support you need.

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@rebecca_2000 - you really need to make sure that if you have sex, your boyfriend or you use protection or you can fall pregnant . There is no such thing as 'mouth aids', so you are safe there.
TeenIssues - 18-Mar-15 @ 2:20 PM
Hi.So me and my boyfriend have been going out for about 9 months and he asked me for sex about a month ago, we had sex but he forgot condoms, and I gave him a big wet slobbery blowjob and now I think I have mouth aids:/
rebecca_2000 - 16-Mar-15 @ 12:41 PM
@grapes14 - you definitely should not be having unprotected sex. I advise you to talk to your doctor or contact your nearest Brook Advisory Centre via the link here. I hope this helps.
TeenIssues - 4-Mar-15 @ 12:13 PM
I'm 14 and regularly have sex with my boyfriend, I know 14 seems a young age to be doing that but it wasn't a quick decision I made I felt ready to make it so I did and I wasn't pressured into sex by my boyfriend. We don't use condoms because he feels like it's not as enjoyable, although he does always 'pull out' when he feels like he's going to cum Im still scared I could get pregnant. I thought I was before but luckily I wasnt, I really want to go on the pill but I know if I ask my mom she'll get suspicious and suspect it's for sexual reasons, which obviously it is but I don't want her to know that. Is there any ways I could get the pill without her knowing or finding out??
grapes14 - 2-Mar-15 @ 1:19 AM
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