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Coping with a Jealous Friend

By: Beth Morrisey MLIS - Updated: 27 Jan 2024 | comments*Discuss
 
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You know how wonderful you are, and you know that others know how wonderful you are, but what do you do when admiration crosses over the line into jealousy? For most teens there will come a day when you realise that one of your friends is jealous – whether it be of who you are, what you’ve done or something you have – and that this jealousy is hurting your friendship. When this happens it can seem like there is nothing that you can do, but the good news is that there is. Don’t let jealousy spoil your relationships. Tackle it head on and you might be back to normal much sooner than you think.

Confront Your Friend

It can be hard to walk up to a friend and ask them what the problem is, but if you want to save your friendship you’ll have to do just that. Don’t approach them and ask why they are jealous of you (unless of course you want to appear totally conceited), just take some time alone with them and let them know that you’ve been feeling like there’s something been coming between you. If they refuse to respond, then use the opportunity to explain how you have been feeling. Chances are that something you say will strike a nerve and your friend will open up as well.

Hammer Out a Solution

When you figure out what is irking your friend, ask him or her what (s)he thinks would make the situation better. If, for example, (s)he say that (s)he feels like (s)he doesn’t get to spend any time with you because your off with your new friends from the swim team then maybe you could invite her along the next time or block off one day a week for just the two of you. Remember, though, that whatever solution you decide on should be a compromise. Don’t limit your own talents or opportunities simply because your friend is unhappy. Try instead to include him or her in your new life and see how that works out.

Practise Your Patience

Even if you do get to the bottom of your friend’s jealousy you’ll likely need to remain patient while (s)he works out his or her own emotions. Even if you can think of a compromise to help get your friendship back on track you can’t do the emotional work of getting over jealousy for your friend. There may be pot-holes in the road up ahead, and you may need to chat with your friend again. If you do, remember to stay calm and ask what is wrong. If it turns out to be the same issue, tell your friend that you feel you have been sticking to the compromise. It may be that your friend is unable to see that, or (s)he didn’t really commit to the compromise and wanted you back all to him or herself. If this is the case then there’s not much you can do about it besides reiterate your offer to meet him or her half-way.

Even the best of friendships can be tinged by jealousy. This destructive emotion is rarely productive and can turn best friends into worst enemies. Before taking drastic action, chat with your jealous friend to see if the two of you can work out a compromise. If you can’t, be prepared to know exactly how far you will go to keep your friend – and how far you won’t.

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The friends i keep are mostly male friends, because guys don't easily get jealous. My female friends always envy my life; for example if i have a boyfriend that is an Amazing one,they they would get jealous and envious of me.
Ariana Grande - 27-Jan-24 @ 3:43 PM
I am Harry and I'm not from an English speaking so my school has an English speaking contest I'm one of the best English speakers in my class and my best friend was not that good of an English speaker so like a good friend I helped him with his speaking and his story later on we decide not to share our stuff with each other so it wouldn't look the same after some practicing it was the contest my best friend goes up the stage and i realize the he copied me and all of my gesture and speaking style I was mad but I said congrats cuz I'm not jealous of him, even though I was very mad, I also realize that he is more and more rude at me and I think we both hate each other now my friendship is declining and worsen please give my some advice
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artical slice - 5-Aug-17 @ 9:44 PM
I am jealous of my friend. She always seems to get the boys and I don't. I try to be pleased for her but it is hard. She is very pretty and sometimes I hate her because of it and I know it is wrong but I just can't help myself. I feel like such a bad person because she is really nice as well which makes it worse. Sometimes I feel that it will ruin our friendship because it is just not fair. It is not like I'm ugly or anything she's just way prettier than me.
Mai - 2-Sep-16 @ 2:13 PM
hey just wanted to thank you for the advice :)
john - 11-Dec-12 @ 1:57 AM
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