Coping with a Crush

Originally written by Beth Morrisey, updated by the editorial team on 6th September 2026

What Is a Crush?

A crush is a strong attraction to someone, often based on limited contact or even from a distance. Unlike a relationship, it tends to be one-sided. You might find yourself drawn to someone you barely know, perhaps someone in your class, a friend of a friend, a stranger you see regularly on your commute, or even a celebrity or public figure.

These feelings can appear suddenly and intensely. The person seems to occupy your thoughts more than makes sense, and you may not fully understand why you feel this way. This is completely normal and something most people experience at some point.

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How a Crush Can Feel

The physical sensations that come with a crush can catch you off guard. You might notice your heart beating faster when they walk past, or feel nervous and tongue-tied if they speak to you. Some people describe a fluttery feeling in their stomach or find their palms get clammy.

These reactions are your body responding to emotional excitement, though they can also stem from anxiety or nerves. They can feel overwhelming at times, but they are a standard part of how attraction works.

Other signs that you have developed a crush may include:

Wanting to be near the person, even without any real reason to talk to them
Thinking about them frequently throughout the day
Noticing small details about them that others might miss
Feeling a boost in your mood when you see them or hear their name
Going out of your way to cross paths with them

Your situation may be slightly different. ask a question below ↓ and our editorial team will reply with our advice.

When a Crush Is Not Returned

The term crush is fitting because these feelings can leave you feeling genuinely hurt if the other person does not share them. Finding out that someone you like does not feel the same way can be painful, and it is fine to acknowledge that disappointment.

Give yourself time to feel whatever comes up. Talking to a trusted friend or family member can help you process these emotions. Avoid isolating yourself or dwelling on what you could have done differently. In most cases, attraction simply is not something anyone can control, on either side. This means it is completely normal not to have your feelings reciprocated, and respecting how everyone feels, including yourself, matters.

It can also help to remember that a crush, however intense, is usually based on limited knowledge of the other person. What you are feeling may be more about the idea of them than who they actually are. This does not make the feelings less real, but it can make moving forward a little easier.

Looking After Yourself

If you are struggling with difficult feelings around a crush, whether that is rejection, embarrassment, or just confusion, support is available. Talking to someone you trust is a good first step. School counsellors can also be helpful if conversations with friends or family do not feel like enough.

Organisations like Childline offer free, confidential advice for anyone under 19 in the UK. You can call them on 0800 1111 or use their online chat service. The Mix also provides support for under 25s on relationships and emotional wellbeing.

Remember that having a crush is a normal part of growing up. These feelings can be exciting, confusing, and sometimes painful, often all at once. With time, they tend to settle, and you will likely look back on them as just one small part of your experiences.

Focus on the people and activities that make you feel good about yourself. Be patient with yourself, and trust that you will learn and grow from whatever you are feeling now.

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TeenIssues Editor 06/09/2026 at 1:02 pm

@Confused Honestly, it's really hard to tell at your age because lots of friends are just physically close and clingy without it meaning anything romantic. Sitting near you and wanting to be around you could just mean she really values you as a mate. The only proper way to know is to ask her, maybe casually when you're alone, or get a mutual friend to sound her out. Whatever the answer, try not to let it change how you treat her, because a good friendship is worth keeping either way.

Confused 06/09/2026 at 1:02 pm

I am in year 7 and have this friend who is really nice and is like me but I don’t know if she has a crush on me or not. She sometimes sits close to me and is around me a lot. She is very keen to be close to me. I want to know if she likes me or not.

blue513 07/09/2019 at 10:53 pm

Theres this guy(number 1) i met in a class i chose more than a year ago now,and at the start it was awkward,but we started talkining due to this other dude i sit next to who never pays attenttion(number 2) at all,eventually i realized i liked this guy (number 1),hes kind and funny and we would laugh and throw paper balls at each other in class until when i had to eventually kinda sit next to him.im so confused about what i should to i really kinda like this dude,butbi can be awkward,and what if he doesnt like me back,that would just make things even weirder,despite this other girl who thinks we would look cute/good together.,i just dont know why ive said nothing.what should i do?ghkoghgk

Ann 17/01/2019 at 7:39 pm

There is this guy I’ve told him that I like him and he told me that he likes me. So I asked him to go on a date/be my boyfriend and he said that he wasn’t ready to date anyone. What would I do? Should I wait for him to be ready of just try and get rid of my crush?

olivia 19/06/2018 at 7:53 am

@Plop - I’m a girl and all you have to do is be sweet and funny to her. You and your friends and her friends can all go and hangout. If you text her and try and make conversation and get to know each other well, she will start to see how great of a person you are. Figure out what makes her laugh and what makes her happy & use that. Definitely become friends first though because she will feel more comfortable with you. Please don’t text her and be creepy and pushy because that’s not cool, personal experience yikes lol. Good luck m8

Leo_I Editor 19/06/2018 at 3:07 pm

@Maya - ignore your friend judging you she just jealous. Give him time coz he will tell you if he likes you. It sounds like he does:))))

Maya 19/06/2018 at 7:45 am

I’ve know this guy since preschool and now we’re going into 9th grade and we just started getting to know each other better this past year. We’re going to different high schools and I’ve started to like him. We snapchat a lot but I don’t know if he likes me too. I’m afraid to tell him because he’s nice, funny, and super easy to talk to. I don’t want to lose him as a friend but I can’t deny my feelings for him. He was kind of the popular guy in my class of 28 people, but I’ve always been nice to everyone so I was well liked in my class. One of my old friends who has been pretty mean to me over the years likes him too, but I don’t think he would like her and he’s told me how she snapchat’s him a lot. My best friend doesn’t really like him and she gets judgy if she sees me texting him. Someone please help!

Jade10 Editor 07/06/2018 at 12:04 pm

@Plop - do girls go out with younger guys? That is the question. We don't go out with younger people in my school as it's seen as a bit weird. Just saying - you might want to think it through and compare :I

Maisie Editor 31/05/2018 at 1:00 pm

@Lee - do you think he may have a crush on you and that is why he is hanging out with you? That might be the reason and he might think that you don't really like him. Maybe it's time to get a bit flirty with him and try to find out!

Lee 29/05/2018 at 2:21 am

I've been friends with this one guy since we started high school. We didn't start becoming close until a year back, and even though we don't really have the same group of friends, we're always just hanging out together. I just realized about half a month ago that I had a huge crush on him, and now I have no idea what to do. I can't avoid him (not like I want to, anyway), but now that I've figured out that I like him, I keep making things super awkward between us. He's really sweet, but I think he's confused because it's pretty obvious that things are different, now. The thing is, I don't think he suspects anything at all, because he thinks I like someone else! What do I do?

Cal Editor 15/05/2018 at 2:27 pm

@maggie_w - have you even spoken to him? That would be a start. Try and strike up a conversation, be confident and just do it.

maggie_w 15/05/2018 at 12:29 am

Alright, so I'm a freshman. The second I started highschool I noticed this guy, he was in three of my classes. I realized I had a small crush growing on him, but just brushed it off and decided to ignore it. However, it never went away. It just kept getting worse. I'm pretty much at the end of grade 9 now, he wasn't in any of my classes this semester but I still think about him everyday. I've come to the conclusion that this crush will never go away, I really like this guy. I don't even want any help I just wanted to get it out there, haven't told anyone yet. So ya... I'm obsessed with him.

Jax Editor 04/05/2018 at 2:34 pm

@K - it's likely he knows if your friends know. So at least he will know who you are now :) If he is interested he'll start to catch your eye. If he talks to you - then he is interested.

K 03/05/2018 at 10:32 pm

I’m 12 and have a crush on this boy called Adam. I’ve told all of my friends (because I don’t mind them knowing) but even with my friends tease me when I walks by I don’t even think he knows who I am. Although this one boy was talking to me -with Adam- and nudged him as if to say something but I don’t know, help!!!

confused 30/03/2018 at 5:23 am

i am a softmore in high school and i like this guy but he can be rude sometimes, maybe he’s flirting or whatever but he always says he joking but some of the things he says can be hurtful, like calling me stupid or like i eat like a pig or whatever but i dont know my friends say that’s how boys flirt but i’m not sure..... do i like a totally horrible person that hates me? or i’d that just him flirting..?

Flisskj Editor 29/03/2018 at 12:13 pm

@lauryn - I'd wait to see if you get any encouraging signs. If there are bits where he's cold to you, I'd probably not say anything yet. Just continue being friends and trying to spend more time together. My crush went cold when I told him. If he likes you, he'll make an effort, simple.

lauryn 28/03/2018 at 5:39 am

I’m a girl in 10th grade and have a crush on a friend. not very close but i’ve had a crush on him for a few months now and i can’t confess my crush because if he dosent feel the same way then i’ll have to spend the rest of the school year in the same class awkwardly and we have another class junior year. what should i do? should i take the risk and confess my feelings ( i dont know if he feels the same, it’s pretty hot and cold) or should i just try to get over my crush and remain friends??

MinniM Editor 05/03/2018 at 10:20 am

@Lovegirl - if he told you he just wants to be friends then you need to listen to him, move on and find someone else who loves you too. We all hang around too much waiting for that special person to love us but we are wasting time. We need to find someone who loves us back.

Lovegirl 04/03/2018 at 10:43 am

Hi,im a girl in 7th grade..my crush told me that he loves me alot and i told him too but he said that he thinks we should just be friends.I said ok,but i cant get him out of my mind.someone pls help me!! Its a killer crush we know each other since 3rd grade and i like him since start and likes me since 5th grade...how can i cope up being in love but being friends

jessie Editor 23/02/2018 at 11:16 am

@Lovesick - if you think he likes you too - just go with it. :)))

Lovesick 22/02/2018 at 9:13 pm

Hi.. ?? I’m in 5th grade and I have a crush on a friend that’s really close.. we have know each other since 1st grade..It’s a killer crush.. I think he likes me ?? He flirts so yeah.. Anywyas can anyone help me with this??

h.p 06/01/2018 at 2:42 am

I had a crush on the same guy for three years and I had no idea how to get rid of that feeling but we used to be friends when he first started at my school but when I told him liked him, I said to him we need to have break because my feelings were getting in the way when I told him he was kind of upset but we still talk but not as often as we used to. The nights after I told him I cried myself to sleep I thought I lost everything.

Oggau Editor 05/01/2018 at 3:09 pm

@Cherry Crush - forget him and move on to someone new. Having a crush on your ex b/f's brother is way too complicated.

Cherry Crush 01/01/2018 at 7:21 pm

I have a crush on this boy. He is my old bff's brother but now that we don't hang out I never see him. I think that he used to like me but not anymore. What do I do?

Lilly 21/11/2017 at 7:49 pm

What happens if you have a killer crush on two boys but don't know which one to choose because their equally as awesome?! ??

B<3 Editor 11/09/2017 at 2:31 pm

@Aleeya - gosh - that must be difficult with twins and if you can't differentiate! Becs.

Aleeya 10/09/2017 at 8:02 pm

The worst thing is that I'm going to need to leave my school and go back to my own country soon.. Dating him in a long distance relationship may be difficult and might change my heart and break his heart as well so I'm scared... I have no choice but to leave the country soon.. I hate myself because all these are making my life miserable and if I make him involved.. His life would be just as bad...

Aleeya 10/09/2017 at 7:56 pm

My crush is a year older than me, so I don't bump into them often at school since different grades and years has differently class and break timings. And yes, I said them. I've always has different crushes, some which already knew my interest in them but I tend to move on because I'm slightly impatient, but this time there's a boy.. I can't differentiate between him and his twin but I'd have to guess according to their personalities. I don't know his name but he was the only crush that made my heart dropped inside me and made me going mad for days and days.. ONLY... I've always hated school and I don't really have desperate needs to see my friends often but he was the one I was excited to see, each day in the morning, during break and after school. AGHH!! Thanks to him, all I do everyday is smile at the thought of him...

MagicalFruits 23/07/2017 at 4:40 am

@Peetshes - I am sort of in the same situation as you. Except I've never asked him out. I'm no expert or anything, but when he said "no," how did he say it?? Did he laugh while he said it, or did he look serious? Was he looking into your eyes, at the ground, someone else, etc.? Also, when he acts around his friends and the other girl, is it different from how he acts towards you?

Rose00 Editor 10/07/2017 at 1:54 pm

@Meme - the fact he's 15 and you are 13 is a big age difference. He might like you......but will he cross the age divide? Boys in my school don't go out with girls two years younger even if they fancy them. He might like you a lot - but he might not ask you out because you are too young. That's the only problem I can see.

Meme 08/07/2017 at 9:54 am

This was before my crush got a girlfriend. Once this guy asked me out (and stroked my head twice?)I told my sister and she said I'm so gonna tell him (twister guy) that a guy asked you out he'll be really jealous or beat him up (because of the stroking)or both. now twister guy has a pretty thin and fragile build but I know he could take someone down if he had to not that he is that kind of guy. Also something really weird happened I was sitting next to my sister she was talking to her friends including him and I had had a drug talk I found quite interesting and joked I would want to try them and he messed the group chat and said if caity really wants weed or whatever I'll give it to her. one of them said dude she is 12 wtf(I was 12 then)another said lol, bet she actually already has some (I don't) my sister was like no just no it's time to stop then he replied but she is good but srsly if she does tell me. Ahhhhhh I'm pretty sure he smokes too not that it bothers me I like him either way. He is a good guy :) and I know he cares about me. The other of the guys in the group is like an actual brother to me he is easier to talk to about my problems bc my sister can sometimes be pretty blunt about situations.its nice to have an older brother figure I've always wanted an older brother sometimes he even teases me about crushes *clears throat* his gf is also really sweet. Anyways my crush is going into year 11 this year and me into year 9 should I give up on him? I really like him like so much. I know he holds some sort of feelings towards me I just wish I had told him about the crush when I had a chance :( thanks for reading it means a lot for someone to listen

Carla 03/06/2017 at 4:29 pm

so i had this crush at the start of the year, i really liked him and thought him amazing even though i knew it would never happen, he is a jock, and uses girls like water, yet i was still blinded. half way through year i thought i was over him, and i had changed friendship groups, so they had realised i had a crush, and i ended up telling them. big mistake. they were fine at hte begining but they get on well with him, and i don't, i argue with him a hell of a lot, and to make matters worse i'm in the same form as him. i can't study well when i'm around him, and struggle to focus, and my friends tease me quite a bit, it's sooo annoying, i can't help who i like, right? i have no chance with him, and i know it, but when i look at him i fall harder, how do i get over someone who was never mine? i laugh and smile, and he will stare at me, and then he will turn away and act like nothing happened. he is on my social media and views tons of photos of me, and then acts like he it never happened, it's so hard to cope with, especially as he flirts with my friends, and i suspect he has a crush on my friend! what am i meant to do? i love him, i hate him, how on earth do i cope?

SurferGirl Editor 17/05/2017 at 12:35 pm

@MagicalFruits - it sounds as though he likes you especially if he was staring at you. But it depends on what way he was staring at you - as there is a difference between stares :)

MagicalFruits 13/05/2017 at 4:22 am

Okay, I have had a crush on this guy for a little over 2 years. About two months ago, I realized that we probably won't be good together. So, I found a video that was suppose to help me get over him. It didn't really work, because my feelings were still strong. I was sent to the class he was in along with some of my friends, but the three of us got separated, and I was of course sitting across from him. Anyways, we were testing. And a friend of mine who is in the same class that the guy I like is in, was sitting next to me. I quietly said hello to her. A little into the testing, I noticed that my crush was staring at me, I didn't look at him directly, but I casually looked at him pretending to run my fingers through my hair. In my head, I was thinking, "Why is he looking at me??" (By the way, when I met him, I thought of him as a friend. But a few months after I realized I had developed feelings for him.) When my friend had finished testing, she saw him looking at me. She whispered to me, "He's staring at you." And that time, I looked at him. He continued staring at me when he I saw him. I began feeling nervous. I was shaking like crazy! I couldn't handle him staring at me anymore because I felt my feelings returning. And since that day, I couldn't get rid of my crush on him. My friends think that he likes me, but I honestly doubt it. Please help!

TeenIssues Editor 12/05/2017 at 11:15 am

Many young people have crushes on their teachers, lecturers or professors. But, it is against the law for teachers and pupils to have relations and to do so is a sackable offence, so you have to know your crush is not going to turn into a reality. That doesn't mean you cannot continue to enjoy dreaming and fantasising about your crush. But, if your are going to have a relationship with someone - it is better for you to have a relationship with someone who is actually available. Leave your crush to your daydreams. Those daydreams will soon wear off when you realise your crush is not accessible.

Vishnu 11/05/2017 at 3:01 pm

I am 18 years old. I have a crush on my professor but he is engaged. Still I can't control my feelings. Whenever I see him I just fall for him. I am making him uncomfortable. But I don't know what to do. But not a single minute of my life goes without his thought. I have a hopeless crush on him. How can I come out of it???
Please reply fast....

Maxi03 Editor 24/04/2017 at 12:42 pm

@ggirly - ask one of your friends to help you out. That's what friends are for ;)

ggirly 23/04/2017 at 8:44 pm

Hey I hope you guys see this because this is a BIG issue. I have a crush on this guy since last year and I can't get over it! I ask my friends to help me but they don't like me ranting on about my crush all the time and their tips aren't helpful. The guy I like is really good at singing and acting and really hot. We had a class together last year but not this year. He doesn't notice me at all, probably doesn't know I exist, and I don't even know if he knows my name! I'm also too shy to talk to him. He's also a foot taller than me so there's no way he'll even notice me. Anyways, I really need help with this and please give me tips on how to get home to notice me!!!!!!!

CallMeJules 22/04/2017 at 2:32 am

So there was this boy and me and him were the best on friends. He was hilarious and over time I developed I really deep crush on him. So one day I invited him over to a party with my other friends and in the end it was just me and him. So I got a popsicle and he also got up and got ice cream. Then I sat on the couch and when he sat down too he wrapped a blanket around both of us and got reallllly close to me. That was the best day of my life when the next day at school he started bullying m e and he talked to everybody but me. He took my best friend away and I was heartbroken. Now we never talk, but I still love him. What do i do?

Umhelp 13/04/2017 at 8:58 pm

I've just turned 13 and I've always thought I was far too young to have a 'relationship' with a boy, I felt like it wouldn't mean anything because we were so young and I've had small crushes in the past but I've never acted on it because I knew it wasn't really love I was feeling because I am too young to experience those emotions. However, there is this new kid who has recently moved to my school and he's really funny, smart and cute. I think he's my first real crush and I'm really worried. He's only at school for the last two classes and a full day on Friday, I'm not in any of his classes, which makes it twice as hard for him to realise I'm alive. I recently found out he just got a girlfriend but she is in some of my classes and she's awful. I've never liked her and she tries to make my life hell. She's really moody and always thinks she's higher up than us all. I want him to be happy but she's just a snob. He is really friendly with my classmates and I would be lying if I said I wasn't jealous. I just want him to realise i exist. Help??!

TeenIssues Editor 06/04/2017 at 2:08 pm

In addition to the tips in the article (which really answer your question) it is about finding a balance. You don't want to deny the crush, it's part of human nature and it is one of the nicest feelings we are lucky to experience as human beings. But it's also one of the most torturous and when it is in full flow, it can take up so much time (so much that we end up getting fed up of it). The fact is you are growing up and this is part of it, as we get older we tend to be able to rationalise these feelings more and can compartmentalise them. Your crush will abate, in the meantime enjoy spending time with her and try to remember that she is just a person too and will have her bad points as well as her good ones, just like me and you. As long as it doesn't affect your schoolwork, you should try to relax into it and enjoy it while you can.

Torn2121 06/04/2017 at 4:30 am

Hi, im in sixth grade and theres this girl in one of my classes that i cant stop thinking of her shes in almost every single thought and i cant handle it! She was in my last trimester and thats when my crush on her started and since then my mind has been tahing a mental beating of her being in almost every thought and shes so cool and charimsic yet intoxicating to think of and i havent told any one and gossip spreads like wildfire at my school and will do me no good. I want to still be her friend but the thoughts make it impossible and another thing is that sometimes i stay up late andlisten to classic rock and a lot of the lyrics revolve around love and its not helping at all also every second im not in her aura i sm left with the thoughts... i just need some tips to help me cope with the thoughts.

Poppy Editor 05/04/2017 at 1:53 pm

@Ashley - It's always the same, the person we don't like likes us and the person we like is not interested in us. There's nothing we can do about it - we just have to suck it up. We can't force 'chemistry'. Somewhere out there there's a person that you will like and that will like you in return.

Ashley 05/04/2017 at 1:16 am

I have liked this guy for a couple years now and he is always Talks to me. The thing is I know who he likes and it's not me.I have tried to get over it but I just can't. How do I deal with this please reply!

Peetshes 01/04/2017 at 5:18 am

Hi I like a guy and I don't know what to do. I've only told 2 of my friends because the others ship him and me and I don't wanna make it weird. He also hangs around with this other girl and I don't know if they like each other or not. Every time I talk to him, I regret it and get embarrassed. I have also fake asked him out because of an Oreo and he said no, which probably means he doesn't like me. Help!!!!!

Duckiiie 31/03/2017 at 6:49 pm

I have a crush on a boy . I barely talk to him i don't know how it happened or why but when I'm next to him my heart beats really fast and I sweat a lot....I have never felt this things before for a boy and I just don't know how to deal with it.I sometimes thought about telling him how I feel because this is my last year at school,and I won't see him next year but I'm too afraid to get rejected . I'm shy and I'd be so ashamed if he told me that he didn't like me . There are many students at my school and everyone will end up knowing that I confessed my feelings to that boy.There's another problem too apparently he is in love with a girl but they're not yet in a relationship but I fear that his heart is already taken
We share many lessons together so I see him almost everyday and it's so hard....I don't know what to do.....

TeenIssues Editor 31/03/2017 at 1:55 pm

How exciting for you and scary at the same time. I know it is always difficult when someone says 'just be yourself' when you are so conscious of yourself that you can't possibly. But, being your usual natural self always helps. Try not to think of him as your crush, but as a friend you have always known. You don't say how old you are, but two years is not a big age gap. All we can say is just enjoy the time you sepnd with him and most of all try to relax. Enjoy.

Rebecca 30/03/2017 at 11:05 pm

I have a crush on a family friend and it's so awkward because 1) he's my dad's friend's son, 2) I'm good friends with his younger sister, and 3) we've known eachother since we were little. Also he's two years older than me so i feel like he may not be interested in me, even though I'm quite mature for my age sometimes. And I need advice because he's going to visit us with his family in the holidays but his sister isn't going to be there this time so I'll have to make conversation with him and im just so nervous and obvious sometimes and I feel so stupid liking him cause we could never date because of the family situation.
Should I try to stop liking him? And how do I do that?!

MaiTai Editor 22/03/2017 at 2:10 pm

@bon - if he wants to keep chatting to you then it's OK - go with it you've got nothing to lose.

bon 22/03/2017 at 7:21 am

i mean him im a girl he is a boy my so called crush

bon 22/03/2017 at 7:16 am

Hi i meet this my so called crush on fb im searching someones name and suddenly see his profile i got interested to him and finally i message her at fb because i know im brave enough to confess but i tell her i idolize her not saying that he is my crush what would i do i think i like her a lot but i dont know him in person should i continue talking with him? its really awkward but i think im starting to love him what to do please help me im 18

Starcrushed 17/03/2017 at 3:47 pm

Hey! I'm looking for some advice.. There's this guy I really like and we are friends, I hang around with him most of the time because we have the same friendship groups.. I really like him and I don't know how to ask him out.. I'm absolutely terrified and I know he's going to say no.. What should I do?

PrinnyP Editor 16/03/2017 at 1:44 pm

@Voquev - just being yourself is always the best approach. People always know if you're trying to impress them and it is impossible to keep up, so by doing that you would have been setting a false precedent. It's a good thing that your thoughts of her have dragged you away from gaming - what sort of life can you ever lead from behind a computer screen? You don't say if you are still friends - but just ask her if wants to hang out - just as mates. Being natural is your best option and if you don't want anything more from her than to be mates then you've nothing to lose.

Voquev 16/03/2017 at 3:02 am

Okay, so I have known this one girl for 6 months now. I am SUPER into her, and for the first 3 months or so I tried to impress her. I'm a shy person, so I never asked for her phone number or anything, I just started changing everything in my life to do things that would impress her, in hopes that she would open up to me.
Unfortunetally, that didn't happen, so I ended up stopping all my efforts to impress her and attempted to return to living my life without her. For about 2 months now I've been desperately trying to forget about her, but nothing has worked. Before I met her I was an avid gamer, but now I don't get nearly as much enjoyment out of playing. I don't know whether she likes me or not, but regardless I know I'll never actually approach her.
It's strange, I don't want to date her or anything, I just want to be aquaintences. I wish I could live my old life and enjoy it.
Any tips? Thanks

LizzyBeth Editor 15/02/2017 at 3:03 pm

@Charlo lotter - crushes are great! They make you feel alive and give you hope and optimism. Watch plenty of romcoms, be in the moment and get carried away. Enjoy your crush and speak to your crush to see if he feels the same :) Beth.

Charlo lotter 11/02/2017 at 9:34 pm

Thanks and my story goes like,:
I have crush on someone, I met him at the campus ..I don't know his name and from the first time I saw him I never stopped thinking about him,whenever I meet him my heart skips beats and I always feel nervous... The part of me wants to tell him how I feel and another part of me wants him to stay in the past and never think of him....help me because the guy stole my heart,my attention, concentration and my mind and am getting carried away
Thanks

Elle2000 Editor 27/01/2017 at 2:45 pm

@Hopeless13 - so you should just be brave and talk to him. You might find that you don't actually like him when you do. It ruined one of my crushes once because I thought I liked this boy and then when I spoke to him he was a real arrogant *&^% and I went off him straight away. It stopped me wasting loads of time thinking about him

Hopeless13 27/01/2017 at 9:00 am

So, the guy i like is in only one of my classes, never talks to me nor do i talk to him, and i bet he dosent even know i exist, but i can never stop thinking about him and whenever im near him i can never think straight. I want to go up and start talking to him but im super shy and we are both super awkward, i really dont know what to do. Should i just continue just trying to get over the crush or should i try to make something happen? i keep saying to myself that if something is supposed it happen it will but i just dont know anymore.

TeenIssues Editor 24/01/2017 at 2:39 pm

You will find that throughout much of your life these are the things that are sent to test us. It very much comes down to what your priorities are and/or whether you want a work/life balance. You will find later on that we all have to juggle the things we want, i.e; relationships and children, work, fun. However, as you will get older you'll find that some people can happily manage to do all things, some prefer work and some people concentrate on purely having fun. The measure is; what type of person you want to be? If you want to concentrate on your schooling badly enough and don't want to be affected by this girl, then this will eventually win over. But if you think you can manage both having a possible girlfriend and still do your schoolwork, then the choice is yours (assuming your crush likes you as much as you like her). The thing is to let your decisions develop naturally, and you will eventually go with the right one for you, and without having to do very much at all.

J4key 24/01/2017 at 3:24 am

Also, continuing from before, this is really stressing me out. It's gotten to the point that for a about a month now I've been not exactly stressing over her, but stressing about over the fact that I can't stop thinking about her. This is definitally my worst problem right now (I know, I'm so spoiled), and I feel like there is now way for me to move on. I've spent so much time recently thinking about this problem that I feel like I'll never forget about it. Maybe I'm overanalyzing this, but it really sucks. All I want is to move on with life.

J4key 24/01/2017 at 12:11 am

Hey, so there is this one girl who I have a crush on. However, the problem is that I don't want to date anyone right now. I am very busy with school and sports and I know that if I were in a relationship it would mess my life up. I keep telling myself this, yet I keep thinking about her all the time and I get nervous whenever I see her around. I want to be able to forget about her or anyone else for that matter and to move on with life, but it's hard. I see her everday at school, so avoiding her isn't an option.
Any suggestions? Thanks

Poppy Editor 05/04/2017 at 11:06 am

@CherryCrush - sounds to me like he likes you! Smile back - hang out with him more.

CherryCrush 22/01/2017 at 9:38 am

Dear AlexlovesSophia,
Have you told this girl(Sophia?) that you like her? If not then try talking to her about anything, even about her weekend. Try to ask questions to find out more about her or let her go in front of you. Do you see each other out side of swimming class? Do you go to the same school?
Do you even know her last name? Don't be afraid!
Hope this helps??

AlexlovesSophia 21/01/2017 at 9:23 am

There is this girl in my swimming class who is like 12 and I think she likes me. I really like her but whenever she cracks a joke it kinda feels awkward. Now the register has changed so she is last and I am first. I really like her but I have no idea about what to do. WHAT DO I DO???

TeenIssues Editor 19/01/2017 at 2:35 pm

If your crush has told you he is unable (for whatever reason) to be in a relationship, then you have to respect this. This is not to say he might not reconsider, but it saves you from holding out hope. Often, when we want someone badly our perception becomes disorientated and we think how can they possibly NOT want us, even if they have said they don't. However, the best way to keep your emotions in perspective is to take on board and digest his words. It's great that you can be open and honest with each other and it is equally great that you can remain close friends and there is no awkwardness between you. So keep on doing what you are doing and if you are relaxed about the situation, then if anything is going to develop it will naturally. However, at the same time it is important that you keep yourself open to meeting other guys that may be wanting that 'something more'. Good luck!

flushedNblushed 19/01/2017 at 12:59 am

so I have a crush on a guy the same age as me (or thereabouts, he's nearly 18 I am 18) and I just got out of a relationship. i know a lot of other guys also have crushes on him and in my panicked desperation for affection before he started dating anyone else I told him I had a crush on him, we were always close and affectionate anyway, because that's what our whole friendship group is just like. It's been a couple weeks now and at the time he said he wasn't mentally able to be in a relationship, but we still talk in the same way we did before, regularly and showing affection. I even try to flirt sometimes although it's really subtle and he hasn't seemed to notice it. do you think there's a possibility he likes me or am I just way too hopeful

TeenIssues Editor 18/01/2017 at 10:44 am

The best way to sort out any issue with a person is to communicate with them. If she was talking to you previously and now she is ignoring you, the next time she turns away and is distracted you may wish to ask her if you have done something to offend her, or say 'hey, why don't you talk to me anymore?' Maybe she has just gone shy because maybe she has a crush on you too, or maybe she's playing a game and now she feels you are interested is backing off. These are two extremes with many variant explanations in between. However, if you want to try and find out, the only way you will find out will be to strike up communication and ask her directly. I hope this helps - good luck.

ariellab 17/01/2017 at 12:51 pm

Hi, i hope you or anyone sees this and helps me, cause i really need some guidance. So my crush is a girl, and I'm a girl too, but I know for a fact that she's into girls too. So, she used to come to me, she knew my name and I didn't even know she existed. She'd come to me and say sweet stuff all the time, telling me to smile and whatnot. That is when I developed a crush on her. And then suddenly she started ignoring me, not look at me ob purpose, talk to someone next to me and doesn't even bother looking at me at all. And before that, I saw her with one of my ex friends. I don't know, perhaps she heard something about me or she just decided that she shouldnt bother with me anymore.. please tell me what to do. I catch her staring at me and when i look she looks away and act all mad or like distracted with something in front of her

Seriously 09/01/2017 at 5:15 pm

Dear CherryCrush,
He probably wants to be friends but maybe some thing more. Maybe there's an awkward pause or something because he wants to tell you something or I could be compleatly over-reading this. Does he wink at you? That would be an obvious sign that he likes you. Does he look shy?
Does he ask lots of questions so that he can talk to you?
Hope this kind of helped.

Seriously 09/01/2017 at 5:07 pm

Hey ElizaD,
How old are you?
If you're around 12 then he could want to be friends and nothing more.
From a boys perspective, if your around 15 then maybe some thing more.
Occasionally it can be the other way round but...not really.
First, before getting his attention, decide if you want to be friends or something more.
Also ,no offence, but maybe some of your jokes just weren't funny.

ElizaD 06/01/2017 at 7:59 pm

I have had my first crush. I am friends with cherrycrush and I have talked with her about it. He is my brothers friend and I rarely ever see him. When I do though, I can't really be normal and when I crack a joke, he either laughs way to much or just ignores me. I really want to get his attention and become friends but I never or barely ever get to see him. What do I do??

CherryCrush 05/01/2017 at 7:35 pm

This is my first crush and I don't really know what to do. I go to the same swimming club as him and he just acts like my friend but he laughs a bit too much at my jokes and I some times catch him looking at me and he smiles so I smile back. I really like them but have no clue what do now, WHAT DO I DO???

KatieT <3 Editor 05/12/2016 at 1:58 pm

@Nicky - listen to your friends, if he has a reputation you don't really want to get mixed up with him as you might become another to add to his list. You should know by his attitude, if he's cocky and arrogant and loves himself, then you can be pretty sure he's not going to love you. I'd try to find someone that fits you as a person and that you know is going to treat you right. So, if you have doubts, keep away. KT

TeenIssues Editor 30/11/2016 at 12:02 pm

It's always a tricky and frustrating process when you think your crush may get the wrong idea and a situation may be misconstrued. You might want to ask one of your trusted and close girl friends to drop it into the conversation that you are not actually going out with your male friend. Your girl friend may also drop into the conversation that you prefer your crush - this means that if both of you are too shy to say anything, then at least you can say it through someone else. At the same time, you have to be sensitive to your male friend, who obviously has a crush on you and is obviously going to feel deflated when he finds out you like someone else. Good luck!

LilySparkles 29/11/2016 at 4:55 pm

I have this crush, and all my friends think he likes me, and he is doing quite a bit to be around me, but both of us are really shy, so neither of us want to be the one who makes the first move, and I'm really scared if he doesn't like me... what do I do?

But to make matters worse, one of my guy friends (who wears his heart on his sleeve) has started following me around, and he makes it SO obvious that he likes me, but now everybody (mabe including my crush?! ??)thinks we're going out but I only think of him in a friend way.

HELP! ??

TeenIssues Editor 28/11/2016 at 10:54 am

It is always difficult to decifer whether a person likes you and sees you as more than a friend, or whether they are just being friendly. As we get older we begin to recognise the signs a bit more, but at 15 the signs can be muted. By what you are saying it seems he 'could' like you as more than a friend, especially if he is complimenting you on the way you look, which means he is taking notice of your appearance and he obviously also wishes to spend time with you. I can only suggest you let it take its course naturally. When we are younger we want things to happen quickly, as we get older we tend to pace ourselves a bit more and are willing to let situations develop naturally. Therefore, I can only suggest you let the situation develop at its own pace, while at the same time being receptive to suggestions of hanging out together. You too can make suggestions too in order to test the water. It can be scary for boys as they too don't know whether they are judging the situation correctly, so if you like him, a bit of subtle encouragement from you will help. But, if you're not allowed to date him until you are 16, then you have plenty of time to get to know him first as a friend.

lost 27/11/2016 at 3:46 am

okay so i think i like this guy... but im not sure. when i talk to him we talk fairly normally, but when im not with him i fantasize a lot about our "future", and experience other crush symptoms (go out of my way and change my habits to see him or have opportunities to talk to him). he's always been very kind to me, he compliments me on things like my hair, or outfits, small things like that. i keep going through a cycle where i think he likes me, or i think he doesnt and its driving me crazy. i feel like i cant tell anyone about it because a lot of my friends are close enough to him that it could leak. Also, i just met him this school year and don't know him that well. i managed to tell two people that i trust a lot about this whole situation and one of them said that he is pretty outgoing and would probably just tell me if he liked me, the other says that he likes me because he does little things for me, they're hard to describe. one time he stayed after school, voluntarily, to keep me company. im so confused. idk if hes just not saying anything because he knows i wont be able to date until im 16, or if hes just not interested.
btw we're both 15 and i'm female

TeenIssues Editor 02/11/2016 at 2:26 pm

It's never easy to be able to assess whether someone likes you as a friend or feels more for you, especially when you are young. As you mature, so lessons learned and previous experience will allow you to trust your basic instincts more. That said, we can all make mistakes and get it wrong even late on in life. If this boy has said he likes your best friend, then you have to take it on board that he is telling the truth. The positive thing is (although it may not seem like a positive thing currently), is that at least you know and you can move on with that information. It's often better than living in hope and living with a crush. I know it must feel like your world has currently imploded, but at your age there WILL be a new crush around the corner and plenty more in addition This boy obviously likes you, but this time it may just be as a friend.

Secret 02/11/2016 at 8:43 am

I have this crush on this guy I've known him for 7 months (he is very shy) but I have liked him from I met him but he always gave me signals he likes me! We would be on the swings at the park and he would be staring at me smiling or he would always tease me about a boy or he would go all quiet if any of my guy friends come down almost like he's jealous, but last night I told him how I felt and he turned around and said he likes my best mate ??So who does he like? How do I cope with this? Plz help me

TeenIssues Editor 26/09/2016 at 11:11 am

The advice given to Abby in the comment below would also transfer to you. The fact you are thinking about him in this way means there is something there. However, not all crushes develop into massive ones, some are only mild crushes and are more easily containable than others and may fizzle away as quickly as they have sprung up. Whether it is or not, the main advice is not to take it too seriously but to enjoy it and relax. If you are moving away, then there will be other crushes where you move to next and there will also be boyfriends that may develop out of those crushes. You're still young and attractions will come and go through your whole life, it's actually a nice problem to have.

Kanji 25/09/2016 at 12:01 pm

I've had bad experiences with crushes my whole life. Leaving crushes, my crushes leaving me, and straight up rejection. Last year turned sour with this one boy I liked, so for this year I promised I wouldn't like anyone (since I know we'll be moving). Unfortunately, during the first few months of school, there's this one guy I've been feeling weird around. He's pretty normal and the only difference is that he's a year older than me. At first I admired him, for his acting skills in our Drama group, but soon I realised I was actually developing a crush. Honestly, I'm not sure if I admire him or if I like him!
I don't want to get a crush because I know I'll only hurt myself in the end...

TeenIssues Editor 23/09/2016 at 10:36 am

As with every crush you should enjoy it for what it is, a crush. I'm sure also that if he is attractive and older then you may not be the only girl with a crush on him, so you might not be on your own here. The nice thing about having a crush is that you look forward to going in to that class and giving your best performance so he can witness it and looking forward to the times he can help you with things, as well as letting your imagination run away with you, especially as you are already in a 'dramatic' setting. While you may think you can't function correctly when he helps you with things, he probably wont even notice that you're nervous. As for the crush, it's fun, it's lovely and exciting and as long as it doesn't interfere too much in other areas of your life, then run with it and enjoy it while you can.

Abby 22/09/2016 at 3:30 am

Okay so, in my grade 9 drama class there is this guy who is in grade twelve. He helps out with things. I hate myself because I'm pretty sure this is my first real intense crush like literally I can't function right when he helps me with things. I know I shouldn't like someone who's 3 years older than me and I'll probably never see them again but I would still like some advice on how to handle these symptoms of a crush because I obviously don't know what to do. Could you please help me? (I probably make no sense but oh well)

Petalii 02/09/2016 at 2:07 pm

I've had a mate who is a boy in school and I have known him through primary and now we're in secondary school. Just before we broke up out of nowhere (after a dream) I got a mad a crush on him and couldn't speak to him any more I just dried up. All I've done through the holidays is think about him..now we are going back to school I'm excited (coz I'll see him) but really nervous at the same time and feel I won't be able to speak to him. I don't know what to do. I can't understand why no words will come out of my mouth I feel STUPID. Help!!! I'm 15 :(

Petal.iii 02/09/2016 at 1:58 pm

@zoo - easy - you need to start talking about maths. Ask him for his advice on a problem you are trying to solve (because you've been told he's really good at maths). There's your ice breaker :))

zoo 27/08/2016 at 3:14 pm

I have a crush for a boy who is good in maths. we r both in grade 10 but attend different classes. well it all started with a innocent obsession to get to know him physically since everyone praised him for his intelligence. I too am good in maths n I don't want anyone to be better than me in maths. so I gently asked my friends to show me the guy without the intension of crushing on him .so my friends believed that I had a crush for the guy since I mentioned his name in every ten minutes. I was in denial at first then suddenly I fell in love with the idea. people believe that we can make a perfect couple since we r both good in maths. I think about him every sec and am desperate to get his numbers. we don't know each other but every time when I see him my heart smiles
pls help me! advice me

MaiaG<3 Editor 20/07/2016 at 9:41 am

@Teen - speak to him. The best way to find out if a crush likes you too is to try and make friends with him first :))

Teen 19/07/2016 at 12:00 am

I have a crush on a boy in the year above me and i dont know what to do.. Ive never really spoken to him but i wish i could. When ever i see him i feel like running up to him and hugging him. And one time when i walked past him he smiled at me, i felt so special that day ??

TeenIssues Editor 20/06/2016 at 12:16 pm

It is always difficult to advise on personal queries such as this as it is impossible to decifer from a few words whether this boy likes you as much as you like him. The positive pointers show that he stares at you and obviously wants to spend time with you and the easiest way to do this is to act like a friend and hope it develops into something else. Time is the best approach here - carry on doing what you are doing and at some point such as when you are walking home together alone, or at a party or gathering when you are both in a different social scene, then you may get to know better whether you like each other enough for things to develop.

Arsha 19/06/2016 at 2:21 pm

I have a crush on someone. I don't know much about him but I liked him when we first talked. He's the type of guy I want so. We go to the same club for swimming. On Facebook, he only replies when I text. But then, he told me that he didn't like to use it much. We walk back home together along with a friend. He finds excuses to walk with me when my friend is absent. I find him staring at me while I'm swimming. He gives me advices. He acts normal when I'm around but more than talking, he listens to me. He acts more like a friend. But I don't know I'm falling harder. What should I do about this?

TeenIssues Editor 15/04/2016 at 3:01 pm

I am sorry to hear you are no longer chatting to your crush. Perhaps it is because he is dating another girl and therefore he may feel he wishes to distance himself slightly rather than cause any complications with his girlfriend. Also, sometimes people can feel embarrassed if they know someone likes them when they may be a bit shy or reserved. But at your age situations can change overnight and you could meet someoene you like better or as much, completely out of the blue. There are so many new opportunities that will present themselves and as stated in the article, allow yourself to enjoy the frivolity of a crush, but don't let your feelings override your common sense. You are just developing these new feelings, but in a few years they will adjust and what you feel now will seem like such a long way away.

Winifred 15/04/2016 at 8:49 am

I have a crush,i've crushed on for for half a year now,he found out that i like him and looks at me most times but we don't talk...before he found out that i had a crush on him,he added me on Facebook,after he found out that i like him,one holiday we chatted,he started by asking me for a friends number,he asked me who is my best 11th grade student,i said that he is the one,he said 'but we don't talk,don't worry i'll start talking to you' he ask which boy do you like,i didn't reply because i know he knew that it is him,he now said"you know im dating mildred right?",i said yes. when we resumed school,we only waved each other twice and spoke once and for a very short time,from then we havn't spoken again,when he sees me he turns his face,we don't even wave each other again,we don't talk and it hurts me bad

TeenIssues Editor 04/04/2016 at 10:25 am

Your dad has given you some very good advice. Crushes are natural at your age and as the article says living with a crush can be a wonderful, magical, painful, torturous time, but more importantly allow yourself to enjoy the frivolity of a crush, but don't let your feelings override your common sense. In addition it is very difficult to put a stop to these feelings when they come flooding in, but it is important to keep them in perspective and not put your crush on a pedestal, as they are imperfect too. Plus, a crush can disappear as quickly as it comes. Crushes lessen the older you get, so enjoy your crush - just don't let it affect you as a person, or your schoolwork and all will be well.

Ihatehavingcrushes 03/04/2016 at 2:25 am

Hi, this year i started 9th grade. Yippie! My NUMBER ONE goal for the new school year was to NOT have a single crush. I accomplished it in the previous year so i could do it again, right? I'd never been so wrong. The first 2-3 months were slightly bumpy but i managed to avoid any crushes. YES! High five me! But then . . .he showed up. I'm not going to go into detail. Not worth the effort. But when i first met him i just thought he was a cool guy, nothing much. I actually admired him a lot. Then when i figured out he was like me, i immediately acquired feelings for him. In turn i tried to get rid of them. I tried EVERYTHING. then i let it go (Elsa). And it was so GREAT liking him. OMG. PERFECTION. But i couldn't eat or sleep and i'd feel pain in my heart. i wanted to die sometimes. so i tried again. i tried to get rid of it. But to this day it didnt work. I'd like him, i'd hate him, i'd like him, i'd hate him. . .SIGH. it sucks. My dad, (yeah my dad) gave me some advice and told me that this was SUPPOSED to happen. That it was like a period preparing me for the big deal. in other words, preparing me for falling in love. He told me to chill. But i still DO NOT want to like him! i need some advice please. Thanks, ;3

Someone 28/03/2016 at 12:24 am

I have a crush on someone who is apparently crushing on me, according to a bunch of people. I'm real shy around them but they're in my thoughts all the time and there have been some signs that he might like me back. I don't know what to do.

TeenIssues Editor 19/01/2016 at 11:52 am

I think the issue here is more to do with the fact this girl you like so much is now in a relationship with your friend. So, despite your feelings for her, I'm sure you wouldn't want to betray the trust of your friend. Therefore, the honourable thing to do is to stand back and let them get on with their relationship - which will also give you room to try and find someone new. Crushes pass and real life girlfriends will come your way and who knows what will happen in the future. But in the meantime you should leave yourself open to meeting a lot of lovely girls along the way.

KCool 18/01/2016 at 2:43 pm

Oops! I forgot to mention that I and she both are fifteen and read in the same school and have one tutor in common. We meet in both the places and she treats me as a good friend. She's very open and knows me as a very respectful and good guy. She's just five months older than me.

KCool 18/01/2016 at 2:39 pm

My crush's name starts with a K and so does mine. I am really falling too hard for her. I don't know if I can survive without her but I feel like it's just too late to share my feelings with her. I have been crushing for almost three years and it is just a year ago in that she fell in love with a friend of mine. They have been in a relationship, I predict and I have already heard from the guy that both love each other. But I am uncertain if she loves me too, as I have heard of multiple crushes. I became friends with this girl the year when she came to school and I just don't wanna ruin our friendship. Looks like, I have to live life the way it is now and find someone new, a new zest for life.

Do you think my story could still be better and a better end can be predicted to happen? Please comment and help me out to decide.

TeenIssues Editor 09/11/2015 at 9:54 am

I'm afraid, for the moment, you just have to go along with it. As stated in the article, 'living with a crush can be a wonderful, magical, painful, torturous time. Allow yourself to enjoy the frivolity of a crush, but don't let your feelings override your common sense.' Remember she's just a normal person with normal feelings too, so try and talk to her and treat her as if she was one of your other friends. She may like you too, so try and get to know her as you would any other person who you would like in your life.

james 08/11/2015 at 1:35 am

I'm 15. I have a crush on a girl my age and whenever im around her. I get butterflies and lose my appetite and feel very sick. Any advice to stop this from happening

TeenIssues Editor 22/10/2015 at 2:47 pm

There is quite an age difference between a girl aged 15 and a boy 13, so you may need to tread a bit more carefully here. You will have to try and use your skills to determine whether she likes you as a friend, or whether there might be something more. When you really like someone you are constantly on the look out for signs that they feel the same way. If they ask a lot of questions it is a good sign that they want to get to know you better whereas if they talk about themselves all of the time, then they are perhaps not that bothered. Talking about their friends and wanting to make you like them is also a good sign that they want to involve you in their lives and care what you think. Tread carefully, give it time and see how it develops. If she likes you, then you'll still be in her life in a few months time, and by then I'm sure you'll have a better idea.

Joash1512 21/10/2015 at 7:58 pm

Hi, Im 13, male and I have this crush on a girl whose 15. We are good friends
I like her personality a lot, but she is very open to her mother and if I confess to her, I'm afraid she ll avoid me and her mother will keep an eye on me. What do I do??

TeenIssues Editor 05/10/2015 at 11:59 am

You don't say how long you have been best friends for and what sort of friendship you have. For instance, if you have been friends for years, then something might have naturally happened before now if you both liked each other. If this is a new friendship and you can't wait to spend time with each other, then there may be something other than best friend feelings and he may be feeling the same. However, if he doesn't flirt with you or speaks about other girls, then he may just see you as a friend. If he doesn't speak about other girls and doesn't treat you like one of the lads, then he may have other feelings. It is often hard to judge, because some people are good at not giving away any signs. But as a rule you usually have some sort of a clue of whether someone is in to you or not, by their body language, whether they touch you, flirt with you and generally look at you in that dreamy way.

Lola 04/10/2015 at 8:01 pm

I have a crush on my bestest friend I really want to tell him but I don't want to ruin our friendship because we're about to start high shook together

TeenIssues Editor 25/09/2015 at 2:52 pm

Rather than tell her, perhaps you could see if things develop naturally. The best thing to do is to spend more time in her company and see how things progress. Try not to put too much pressure on yourself, but enjoy your time together. If it is meant to be it will happen organically, without either of you having to try very hard. I hope this helps.

Cryptic_songbird 25/09/2015 at 2:50 am

I'm a fifteen year old freshman girl, who's crushing on a 16 year old sophmore. I hate to admit it, but I have a crush on this one guy, who I only met during this summer. We pushed around a candy cart around the hospital in town for volunteering, and it turns out he goes to my school. He's kind of an awkward nerd, and used to do things occasionally like leave his hand on my head for like minutes. That was back before was hit by "Cupid's arrow," and I hate it, a lot. It was only until recently since I started blushing and freaking out when I try and say "Hi," to him. Since school started, I haven't really spoke to him much, and it's taking over my mind. Any tips or ways to just keep my cool and stay focused?

Help Please! 24/09/2015 at 10:21 pm

I am 13, female and I have had a crush on my best friend for about 6 months now. She is a lesbian, and as far as I know I am straight. But i still have a crush on her and I don't know what to do. I want to tell her but I don't want to ruin our friendship if she doesn't like me back. She is so cute and creative and I am an awkward and self conscious. What do I do? Any tips on how to tell her how I feel?

Jess Editor 27/10/2014 at 12:10 pm

@Ali - it's always difficult when you have a crush on someone because it doesn't matter who they talk to, you will feel like he has a crush on them and not you. Some guys are just very friendly to all people, so it's hard to define whether he likes this girl, or whether he likes you, or even someone else. You'll just have to wait and see how it develops. If he likes you, he'll naturally gravitate towards you when he can. So I wouldn't hand him over to this other girl just yet. Good luck.

Alli 24/10/2014 at 4:22 pm

Wow, after reading all the comments I feel like a late bloomer! So I'm sixteen and have known a guy for almost two months now, he's really funny and talks to me a lot, I try to look my best around him, he's cute but not really hot. I thought he liked me because he jokes around with me all the time and calls me his sister, but now I think he treats everyone like this. Today I saw him with a pretty girl, he was really playful with her, tugged her bookbag and bent down really close to her when she talked to him. So, I think I should leave him alone cause she's a great girl and I guess it wouldnt be too surprising for him to have a crush too, but somehow I'm still obsessed with him, please help!

girl who likes a boy 24/07/2014 at 7:33 am

I'm 14 and there's this guy that i like and i got to know him and hang out with him a lot and i started to have feelings for him but none of my friends like him plus he has a girlfriend (who is also my friend) i dont know what to do?? Today in math class we were talking and he started talking about how I'm always there for him and i started to blush. Please help me!! I dont know what to say or do??

olivia1 07/01/2014 at 12:28 pm

Hi, I am 13 years old and I really like this boy. He is two years older than me, he barley notices me. All my friends say I don't have a chance with him, but I think I'm in love with him. What should I do?

sophie 01/01/2014 at 11:01 pm

I'm 12 and i really like this boy and even though everyone says he likes me I'm too shy to ask him out (i mean, i blush whenever anyone even talks about him!). To make it worse his mum is a teacher and i think she knows I like her son!! I've told my friends and they all think he likes me and have told me to tell him how i feel but i can't and do they said they are going to tell him in really nervous!!

Shawna 27/09/2012 at 4:27 pm

What if my crush likes my BFF and she likes him back??? And she doesn't know I like him 'cause it will be too embarrassing ??

Haaii~~ 08/08/2012 at 8:28 am

Ok, so I like this guy. But I dont think he even knows me. I really like him and want to add him on facebook and all that other stuff...but he doesnt know me so Im too scared to add him. Whenever I see a picture of him I just start blushing for no reason and quickly close the pictures. Im 14 btw..Im always getting frustrated and depressed when I think of him because he doesnt even know who I am.... :'( Please Help meee

kimmi 11/07/2012 at 5:41 am

I'm 16 and I asked a boy out over the internet he said yes I was do happy we talked all night on how we wanted to ask eachother out but were too scared he went on and on about he was so happy so when it was time to go to school I was in class he wasn't there during class he got there late and we both looked at each other in the eyes we kept staring at each other but once it was time to change classes I figured that's when we would talk but he just ran to his class was he embarrassed about me ? But we haven't talked since now its just akward when we see eachother

marc 05/01/2012 at 4:37 am

Tell him face to face How you feel. I'm 14 and told the girl that I think about all the time how I feel. We went out for a month but school drama ended the relationship. We still have feelings for each other and go on dates. But we haven't kissed. I have had my first kiss but just not with her. We have been best friends for a while and still are. It doesn't make your friendship awkward at all really unless another friend brings it up.

Want my friend 22/11/2011 at 10:47 pm

Help, I'm a 14 year old girl, and I really like my male friend, he's really sweet and funny and he always makes me feel safe. The other day we hugged goodbye and I really wanted to kiss him passionately, he's so perfect. But I know he doesn't like me, eat should I do? Should I tell him or should I not, someone help, :(

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